I know that many of you are now familiar with the concept of Gratitude. Using Gratitude as a means for manifesting, finding happiness, and expanding the heart space. For those of you not yet in the regular practice of Gratitude, I encourage you to embrace it as part of your self-care spiritual practice. It will bring in more good and great things in your life and kick you’re manifesting up a gear. The aspect of gratitude I wish to explore with you is the conscious use of Gratitude as a healing tool.
Healing is a multi-faceted practice, it involves working with the heart, mind, energetic, and, spiritual self. Gratitude works on the heart space, aligning the heart’s vibration with your highest energetic and spiritual vibrations. Our innate vibrational frequency, where we resonate at the soul level is one of harmony and it is the place where we heal and through healing grow. For us to heal and grow from any negative experience we need to be able to transform the emotional feelings and energies which we associate with the experience, incident, or person (s). To be able to positively transform any negative experience we need to be able to reframe how we perceive the experience.
For many of our experiences we can move through the healing stage quickly, we may decide to grow from the experience or just move on, that is our choice. One does not automatically follow on from the other. Growth, like healing, is a conscious choice. I commit to healing and growth, so for me, deciding to complete the healing cycle and move into the growth cycle, is a Spiritual Pathway commitment. Everyone must make their own choices. Without judgment, I offer this Gratitude Exercise.
Before expanding on the practice, I would like to give you my understanding and perspective on our blockages to healing. To give context to this practice, I would like to remind you that I am a Buddhist Meditation Master and Master Teacher, trained in Lao PDR. One of the key aspects of healing is the removal of emotional and intellectual attachement to our responses to the event. This is a very natural occurrence, it is how we try to make sense of what happened, our ego-centered response. Now depending on our relationship with our ego, this response can become embedded in our emotions and intellectual rendering or understanding of the event. Naturally, once this occurs, it is now encompassed in our energetic and spiritual signatures.
Our emotional responses can range from victim and outrage, defensive or aggression, justification or acceptance. The emotional or intellectual standpoint is not as important as our degree of attachement to the emotion, perception, or viewpoint that we are adhering to. A healing process has several established processes and these are well documented in terms of emotional responses and language used to describe the event and its impact. As an example the Grief Process is well documented, we must pass through all the stages to allow us to heal. If we become stuck within any one of the stages, then our healing stagnates.
When we become stuck, we stay within our closed heart space, our vibrational integrity is impacted and our sense of self and well-being become askew. Depending on the impact of the attachement to the pain, we can do enormous damage to ourselves, our relationships, and the people around us. To enable us to move through our healing, we must remove our attachement to the event and our emotional and intellectual responses to the event.
Consider the power of attachement, it can define us, through our viewpoint, our response patterns, our language, and our understanding of ourselves in this world. The Gratitude Exercise that I use is one where I ask people to reconsider their standpoint and perspective on the event, the people, or the circumstances that resulted in the pain. I ask clients to find and acknowledge aspects within or around the event that they can be grateful for.
‘I am grateful that I found out before I married him/her, what they are capable of.’
‘I am grateful for what I have learned that this workplace.
This is not an easy exercise it forces you to reconsider and rewrite your internal dialogue. It can be enormously challenging to your sense of self. It will dramatically change your relationship
(emotional and intellectual responses) to the event. It will remove your attachement, release your heart space and recharge your emotional and spiritual well-being. It will accelerate your healing.